are drink tickets at a wedding tacky

Someone at work just told me that they did drink tickets so people could only have a certain amount of drinks so it was easier to figure out how much alcohol to buy. It's been said several times that people who don't want their tickets throw them in the middle of the table. Do an open bar with a limited selection. Our plan is to do a hosted bar of wine and beer. But it's actually going to cost you more money for the same amount & types of drinks? Just put a simple message under their name placard with the drink tickets? What happens to your guests if they go to a party and drink? Some people believe that they are a necessary part of keeping track of how much alcohol is being consumed, while others find them to be an unnecessary hassle. I left feeling like maybe all our guests would be put out if we had a cash bar. Just do the math and estimate it and compare to the costs of the open bar for your entire guest list. Free wine with dinner (2 bottles/ table) and then 2 drink tickets. We have a full, open bar for the reasons you mentioned, i.e. After they have had free drinks all night, they don't get why now they don't get free drinks anymore. "Close the bar during dinner and just do wine service, or close the bar 30 minutes before the end of the night," suggests Ritchie . Where I am from drink tickets or "toonie" bars are very, very common. We have no idea if light drinkers will give them up to heavy drinkers. That's the host's job. I have known weddings that have cash bar. Open bar is so common in my area that my venue includes full open bar in all of their packages. I love all of the holier than thou responses concerning that devil alcohol & weddings. We are giving each person 3-4 drink tickets attached to a welcome pamphlet/order of events. This is your wedding, not a hoedown. How do we distribute the tickets? One 750-milliliter bottle (fifth) of wine contains 16 glasses. Alcohol is not a requirement, and neither is it a requirement to provide ALL forms of alcohol. If you are considering having a cash bar at your next event, you should consider your guests and whether they will be offended by having to pay for their own drinks. A timed bar is better than a $ cap bar, in my opinion. She also worked as a luxury wedding planner and produced over 100 high-end weddings and events in Colorado Plan your wedding wherever and whenever you want on the WeddingWire App. That's probably why I have never heard of a limited bar and it would make no sense here (unless you're able to provide your own alcohol, then wine would be a cheaper option). In Response to Re: Drink Tickets: I'm conflicted with this one and am considering it.in my situation, am worried about people drinking too much and ruining my wedding day because I have two relatives who are obnoxious and embarassing to be around even with 2 glasses of wine. Beer can get ppl drunk just like alchol can if they drink enough of it. Drink Tickets Logistics | Weddings, Wedding Reception | Wedding Forums Maybe just bringing up enough questions will make her reconsider. Are drinks for a wedding tacky? I think if you do something really creative with the drink tickets it could end up being really cute. I would also assume you only wanted us to have two drinks since we only received two tickets. If you don't like the alcohol choices, then you don't have them. At the end of the reception, we owe the venue for all alcohol consumed. That way you could pick 1 cocktail that fits your theme to be available to your guests. We are doing 2 drink tickets per person, and a champagne toast. I don't necessarily think one is better than the other, it obviously depends on where you're from and your guest lists, type of wedding etc. If you dont want to serve alcohol at an open bar, its fine to keep wine bottles on the table. It's interesting to see the different mindsets/thoughts/etc. There are other ways and places to cut costs (as many people said, beer and wine only is totally fine). The wedding we were at had two color tickets - one for beer and one for mixed drinks/wine. You want more? The venue where we are going to be having our wedding has three options for a bar: cash bar, open bar, and drink tickets. Everyone left after the cake was cut and I still am salty about it. Some people brought alcohol, but I had plenty of non-alcoholic beverages. Uhyeah. . Using the drink tickets, it'll be a little more because you're paying more (closer to $4,000). Beer/wine is a good compromise; I dont think you need a full bar, but its a good place to start. Until WW I thought bars were either open or cash. Hosting just beer and wine is fine. If you are sure that 5 drinks will be enough for everybody for the evening, and it is in your budget to pay for that many, why not just have a consumption bar, and the people who may drink more will even out with the people who will drink less (so Grandma drinks only 1 drink in addition to the champagne toast, but Uncle Bob has 7.. However, we're not used to that. YOU as a guest cannot get everything you want at an event that someone else is hosting. Even if it was a GOOD meal, if I paid for it. When all is said and done, doesn't it tend to even itself out? Now, the reception package already includes complimentary wine service with dinner and a champagne toast. I had always figured we would do signature drinks at our wedding (along with I think that you are fine because you said it was kinda the norm in your area and in my opinion drink tickets is better than having to pay to drink. This is not a common world we live in. In Response to Re: Drink Tickets: Why are drink tickets considered tacky? haha. I've noticed a lot of people here go out for "after parties" where I assume people then pay their own way (?) Tacky and uncomfortable. A limited bar excludes guests who can't drink/don't like those options - can you explain why you feel that's okay, but it's not okay to offer X amounts of drinks and then cash? Setting your own standards and showing your guests that their food does not meet them are two great ways to set your own standards. I've never been to a wedding that hasn't at some point switched over to cash or given out X amount of free tickets and then if the guests would like to drink more, they pay however much per drink. In Response to Re: Drink Tickets: